tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-286747642024-03-12T23:57:41.282-05:00Raising Romulus and Remusrunciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.comBlogger541125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-59365263932474342092019-04-25T23:53:00.000-05:002019-04-26T17:58:41.812-05:00<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255 , 255 , 255 , 0); font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">It was "amazing" that in front of the house where her great-grandparents used to live, there are now memorial stones, Lydia Stux described movingly. The great-granddaughter of Sigmund and Martha Moises had come specially from the United States to participate in the installation of memorial plaques (Stolpersteine) for her ancestors at Aachener Strasse 412.</span></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Artist Gunter Demnig personally installs every Stolperstein.</span></td></tr>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255 , 255 , 255 , 0); font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">As Hitler rose in power, normal life was over for Stux`great-grandparents in Cologne. As Jews, they were humiliated and disenfranchised.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Sigmund Moises was born on September 25, 1859 in Stommeln. On September 6, 1900, he married Martha Oberlander from Mannheim who was born in 1880. In 1901 the couple's only child was born in Cologne, daughter Gertrude, called Trude. </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); text-align: center;">For over thirty years, Sigmund Moises headed the menswear business E. Oberländer & Cie at </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); text-align: center;">Glockengasse 20</span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); text-align: center;">. In 1932 he retired. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); text-align: center;">Daughter Trude married Max Ichenhäuser, a physician, and the couple had two children. The family, Trude, Max and their daughters Renate and Erika, was able to emigrate to the United States in </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); text-align: center;">1938 via England</span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); text-align: center;">. </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255 , 255 , 255 , 0); font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; text-align: center;">Sigmund Moises died on 25 March 1942 in the Jewish hospital in Ehrenfeld. He was buried in the Jewish cemetery in Bocklemünd. His wife Martha was deported to the ghetto Theresienstadt on 19 September 1942. In mid-May 1944, the Nazis deported her to Auschwitz where she was murdered.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255 , 255 , 255 , 0); font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; text-align: center;">Sponsors of the Moises’ Stolpersteine are students of the Archbishop Irmgardis Gymnasium in Bayenthal. In religion class, the young people recently studied the relationship of the Catholic Church to National Socialism, especially the behavior of the then-Pope towards the Jews. When their teacher, Judith Föcker, suggested that they sponsor Stolpersteine, the students were immediately enthusiastic about the idea. "We think anti-semitism is an important issue. The Stolpersteine are a way to engage the younger generation with history.”</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: rgba(255 , 255 , 255 , 0); font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; text-align: center;">“Creativity also plays a role in the project,” Ms.</span><span style="background-color: rgba(255 , 255 , 255 , 0); font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; text-align: center;"> Föcker said. “By examining the individual lives of a specific Jewish couple, the students can better understood what was done to these people.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Artist Gunter Demnig is founder of the Stolperstein project. At the installation, students presented what they had learned about the life story of the Moises family. </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Members of the school orchestra accompanied the small ceremony musically as the students sang Hebrew songs. At the end, all present laid flowers, candles and paper doves on the new memorial stones.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Lydia Stux did not know her great-grandparents but her mother had told her about them and about their house in Cologne. Now, by the act of laying the memorial stones, she has been able to share her family history.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #454545; font-size: 19px;">It is with great sadness that I cannot be here today to celebrate the life of our beloved aunt Greta. She lived an amazingly long life, both amazing for longevity and for her many accomplishments.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">While small children we had little face-to-face time with Greta, but received birthday greetings, Hanukkah gifts and postcards with stamps from the many exotic locales she traveled to. Greta has said more than once that I get my love of traveling from her, which must be true, since I didn’t get that from either parent. In fact, I am writing these words from Meknes, Morocco.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">As we got older, our contact with Greta increased with visits to California. Greta was straightforward and plain-spoken. Don’t let that beautiful, lilting Viennese accent fool you. She was a woman of strong opinions and firm convictions. I admit that as a young person in the 1970s, I sometimes chafed at her comments and attitudes. As Ted will attest, I changed my mind abruptly later in life, saying, “I may not agree or like what she has to say, but she is always right.” And she was.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I also want to remark on Greta's amazing generosity. If I came to California to attend Seder with my mother, Greta always found a bottle of wine for me to present to my hosts with her best wishes and a gift for mom. If I brought one of my boys to visit, she had a bag of toys at the ready for him. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Both my boys were absolutely devoted for their great-aunt Greta and with good reason . . . . For example, Jeff once told her that he liked the feel of fur (this is typical for individuals with autism.... they have strong sensory likes and dislikes). Greta replied that she liked fur too, and followed this up with gifts of a fake fur throw, plush pillow and furry hats for both boys. All these items are treasured mementoes.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Greta lived an incredible and long life, and my sons and I will miss her greatly. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #20124d; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><i>Carrying out each usual task,</i></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #20124d; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"><i>So it is quite evident</i></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #20124d;"><i><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">Sounds so boring, you might say.
</span><span style="font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; white-space: pre;">But I like it just that way.</span></i></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">While you knew Erica during </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">THE AKRON YEARS</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">, the 40 years in which she raised three children here, was active in philanthropy, PTA, Hadassah and Naamat, Audubon Society and many other clubs and organizations, there is both a prequel and 3rd chapter in her life that I would like to share.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">Erica was born in Cologne, Germany, the second daughter of a physician and art historian. The family had an English teenage au pair to teach the girls English. As the noose of Nazism tightened, it was the Catholic parish of this au pair which sponsored the family and enabled them to leave Germany. Upon leaving Germany, Mom never uttered another word of German, although she understood it well. She spoke Ohioan...like a native.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">The family made their way from Germany to England to Ohio, eventually settling in Cincinnati where my grandfather opened his medical practice. He died two years later, leaving my grandmother with two young girls. Our grandmother’s response was to expedite their education, so my mother graduated high school at 15 and earned her master’s degree in Chemistry at 21.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">After University, mom met another German-speaking refugee scientist. They were married in 1955 and came to Akron in 1959 when my dad, Paul, took a job with PPG Industries.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">After my father died in 1984, mom met another European refugee scientist. Bill Shore was a Czech survivor of Auschwitz from Cleveland. They dated on and off, and when Bill retired and moved to Los Angeles, mom declared that she had no interest in marrying again and stayed in Akron. Imagine our surprise when she announced to all three of us two years later, “I am getting married to Bill, moving to LA and selling the house. You kids come and get your stuff.” They were like newlyweds until Bill’s death in 2011.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">So you see that a major theme in Erica’s life is dislocation and dramatic reversals of fortune. Yet, we never heard her complain or lament. She did not ever talk about the past.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">Another major theme is, to use a cliche, marching to her own drumbeat. Mom was, first and foremost, a pragmatist and a scientist, with a special interest in biology, nature, ecology and conservation. She enjoyed related, other “left brain” activities: light verse, writing and performing music, history, crossword puzzles and playing bridge. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">Mom’s hobbies and passions were wholesome, if not, unabashedly nerdy. I submit as examples, accordion playing (which she started in the 1930s and was still playing in a klezmer band until a few years ago) and bird-watching. Her life list of birds began when she was 15. When I was little, the Audubon Society outings were agonizing to me. Mom was by decades the youngest Audubon member, but, as in all things, she didn’t care a whit. In adulthood, as I traveled, I thought, “I wish mom were here. I bet she doesn’t have blue-footed booby on her life list.” Occasionally, I would describe to her a bird I had seen but didn’t recognize, and she would reply something like, “that’s a juvenile rosy-breasted nuthatch in its winter plumage!” </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">Of course</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">.</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;"> </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">There were many things that didn’t concern mom. Both strange and somewhat laudable, she had no interest in consumerism, haute cuisine, fashion, popular culture, TV, politics, sports, political correctness, technology beyond the typewriter and the microwave, religion, metaphor, symbolism or word play. She felt strongly enough to rail against things she “</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">just couldn’t stand</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">.” That’s also an odd list, including car commercials, spoiled children, overt displays of piety or religiosity, bralessness, smoking and dishwashers. However passionately she might have felt about any of those </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">things</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">, I never heard her say an unkind thing about another </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">person</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">!</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">Last August, I had a very successful visit with mom. She could no longer hear much, and refused to wear her hearing aids, so conversation was difficult, if not impossible. We spent much of the time in silence, which is Mom’s natural state, but is generally torturous for me. I gave myself over to a wonderful, zenlike, quiet state, where we just sat together or drove together . . . just </span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">being there</span><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: "arial"; font-size: 11pt; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre;">.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span class="s2">Thank you
to everyone for coming out today. For those of you that I haven't met, I'm Ted,
Erica's son. </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s4">If I had to describe my mother in one
word, it would be "interesting." If you were introduced to
her, or sat next to her at dinner or spent time with her she probably
wouldn't engage in too much conversation, but behind that quiet reserved
exterior is someone with many passions, hobbies and interests--and
these are interests that she has had for as long as I can remember which is
about fifty years. She never really quit anything and if
anything, pursued them more vigorously.</span></span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s4">In no particular order, she was a
scientist, a musician, an author, an avid bird-watcher, a bridge player, a poet, a ping pong
player, a playwright and longtime member of many organizations from
Pioneer Women to Mensa and others. When I say she was a musician she
wasn't just a member of the University of Cincinnati marching band many years
ago (which she was) but played in a number of klezmer bands
that preformed at temples, JCC's and assisted living facilities. She
played French horn, accordion, piano and recorder. She wrote music and
she wrote lyrics and sometimes hired people to perform and record her songs. Did
you know that about ten years ago, she wrote a country music song that ended up
on the country charts? True story. Who can forget "The
Cost of Lovin"?(with no “g”)</span></span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s4">Only a few years ago she wrote one of
her plays and a local theater put it on. </span></span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s4">Then there's the writing. She was
a technical writer for PPG for many years which allowed her to use her Masters
degree in chemistry and her writing ability. In addition to countless
short stories that she wrote for herself and sometimes to be published in local
or national magazines, she wrote at least 10-12 books. They weren't all
the same type either. Here are some examples:</span></span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Landlady </i><span style="background-color: rgba(255 , 255 , 255 , 0); font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">which was fiction although
based on her experiences owning a 3 flat in Akron.</span><br />
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stripper </span><br />
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Nuclear Physics</i>, </span></span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255 , 255 , 255 , 0); font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">obviously non-fiction</span><br />
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Great Women in the Biological Sciences</i><br />
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Great Outdoors</i><br />
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photos (birds, insects, close ups of wild animals, vistas, landscapes…
In the landscapes you could see a teeny, tiny
Erica Stux somewhere in the photo (like Where’s
Waldo) with her poems added to every picture</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">After I wrote a few notes to say today,
I decided to Google my mom, and there were 17 books there, some listed on
Amazon, and I realized that in addition to researching and writing these
things, there were photographs and illustrations to assemble, proofing to be
done and publishing and sometimes selling… It’s very impressive.</span></span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><span class="s5">When I told someone in her writing group
the news, she sent out an email to the other members and added, "</span><span class="s6">Erica was not only a loyal and long </span><span class="s5">time
most</span><span class="s6"> productive member of Chatsworth Writers Group,
she was also an active member of my Saturday morning critique group for the
last ten years and rarely missed a meeting. She was a woman of few words,
but always showed up with a new poem or another book she had just
published or an invitation to a play she was having performed. I will
miss her greatly."</span></span></span></div>
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two of her poems were read at our poetry workshop. She was always a
gentle lady, far more illuminating than her diminutive stature would suggest."</span></span></span></div>
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first nine years in Germany in the 1930's, and shortly
after Kristallnacht her family was able to emigrate. Her
father died in 1941 leaving a wife and two daughters aged 12 and 14. It
was decided that the girls needed to graduate as soon as possible so our mother
took two different levels of English at once and did correspondence
courses in Biology and graduated at 15. Some time after her bachelor’s in
chemistry, she got her master’s degree as well. That takes a lot. To be a refugee and then to excel academically right from the
getgo. In fact, she met her second husband at her Mensa group. </span></span></span></div>
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like her playing ping pong in the senior olympics, or being a contestant
on a couple games shows or that she picked up and moved to California and
remarried at age 70, but I'll leave it at this:</span></span></span></div>
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or restaurants or shopping or material goods in general, but she had many other
things that she loved. If I had to sum it up in one phrase it would
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runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-38023645248746476382018-07-15T14:44:00.001-05:002018-07-17T17:27:16.081-05:00Grief<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">My friend L is embarking on the unenviable task of clearing out her late father's estate and getting his house ready to sell. I remember this unpleasant task well, as my brother and I did it six years ago when our younger brother died unexpectedly.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">With Arnie's death, I joined a cohort of friends who have a sibling who died tragically young from a freak boating accident, a drunk driver, a suicide or the Viet Nam war. What strikes me is how raw and exposed our grief is, no matter how much time has passed or how distant or close we were to our brother or sister.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">K's older brother died in 1967 in Viet Nam and although we met in our 20s and she is now in her 60s, that horrible occurrence seems to simmer just below the surface, occasionally boiling over when the topic turns to history or politics. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">The weekend when I found out about Arnie plays in a constant loop in my head, like a film that unspools in real time. "I have so many questions, all unanswerable," I say to L when she asks me about Arnie. She, like many of my old friends, remembers him as a 10- or 12-year-old, a kid compared to me, almost twelve years older. Arnie and I didn't grow up together, our paths merely intersected occasionally. But that doesn't make it any easier.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I am currently reading <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2018/05/25/books/review/david-sedaris-calypso.html">Calypso</a> by <a href="https://www.davidsedarisbooks.com/">David Sedaris</a>. He mentioned his sister <a href="https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2013/10/28/now-we-are-five">Tiffany</a> a lot in his previous books: she took her own life in 2013 leaving five grieving siblings. He </span><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">addresses family, death and grief in this book with his usual misanthropy and drollery. It is cathartic to read. Sedaris is so erudite and clever that my own conflicted feelings are mirrored back to me brilliantly.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">What seems clear is this. The agony of loss never goes away. I remember at Arnie's funeral thinking, "at every future family gathering as I long as I will live, we will acknowledge him." We knew and loved our brother and during my lifetime that fact will be ever-present, a prism through which I will always look at the world.</span><br />
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runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-46905201569752667262018-05-11T22:10:00.003-05:002018-05-11T22:13:56.572-05:00Interview (video)<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Hart and Jeff participated in an interview about group home living.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">When asked if people could make you do things you did not want to do. Hart said, “No, and I’m over my time.”</span>runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-35364352146648922202018-03-28T12:39:00.001-05:002018-03-28T12:39:40.455-05:00Pre-birthday dinner (photo)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">It all started when I was eight. That was the year of mischief.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">First thing we did was at Bakers Square in Wilmette. It was boring, the grownups were talking too much. So we left, sneakily. We ran to the highway. We snuck through the park. First thing we did was smash someone’s van. We thought it was funny.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">A few weeks later, we decided to go out together again. I said Hey Hart, there are two shiny objects at the school near Central Park. I said, let’s get some rocks and throw them at the window. We broke the window with the rocks. We took the trophies and ran home. We tried to climb through the kitchen window. We stood on the Cozy Coupe and climbed in. We got in but mom heard the noise and got mad. She had to call the fuzz.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">The next incident was when me and Hart decided to go out again with no clothes. It was warm out. Mom was sound asleep. Dad was already gone. We didn’t make a sound, we tip toed out. We snuck out to find a new place to live. That didn’t go well. What happened was, we were walking carrying blankets and stuffed animals. We made it to a school. Then someone saw us and said why are you not at home. It is 3 in the morning. He lured us into the school with snacks and gave us some clothes. He asked our names and phone number and called mom. That’s how we got back to the house. Mom was not too happy.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Now I am 24. That was kind of stupid to do all this stuff in the first place, It cost money and caused people worry and caused damage. It was funny at the time, but now I realize it was not too funny. If I still did things like that, I would be in jail. </span><br />
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runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-10722889701587401712017-08-07T19:55:00.002-05:002017-08-07T19:55:08.872-05:00Jeff 24th birthday<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;">Phantom is two years old, and was temporarily housed in the cat adoption area of <a href="https://www.petsmartcharities.org/campaigns/national-adoption-weekend?gclid=Cj0KEQjwg47KBRDk7LSu4LTD8eEBEiQAO4O6r9fvw3SjZQB7bFGbKdtvLDrd_73uyFh0Mx0Id4rmnasaAun28P8HAQ">Petsmart</a>. He was offered for adoption by the <a href="http://anticruelty.org/adopt-a-new-companion/adopt-a-cat/">Anti-Cruelty Society</a>.</span>runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-48607635551632308972016-12-12T22:32:00.001-06:002016-12-12T22:32:13.635-06:00More Car News<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I don't want to go to the auto show this year. I have my own auto show in my bedroom.</span><br />
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runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-67313645400817649342016-09-22T10:27:00.001-05:002016-09-22T10:27:53.461-05:00Don't Sound (or Write) Stupid, Part 4A new feature wherein I, Lydia, instruct you, the reader, not to make common, idiotic mistakes of grammar, syntax, or pronunciation of the English language, particularly errors that annoy me. As a review, the word "recognize" is pronounced rek-kog-nize, not reckin-nize.<br />
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In this installment, I take a moment's break from my usual role as silent grammar scold to address another issue . . . the misuse and overuse of three words. Aside from being trite and banal, these phrases have the undesired effect of making the speaker sound stupid. Currently, I am being aggravated by a tribe of college students (not stupid!) indulging in their use and overuse.<br />
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Excise "basically," which is a synomyn for "fundamentally," not a preamble meaning, "I am about to tell you some extraneous facts, not really related to the subject at hand": "literally," which (surprise) means "literal, in the strictest sense." A little hyberbole never hurts, but it has to be used judiciously. Kill me now, (not literally). And then there is "like." Once upon a time during public speaking class, we were warned not to use "uh" or "uhm" to fill pauses. Now it seems, the word "like" is used instead. Stop it.runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-60311110806990379092016-07-28T09:37:00.003-05:002016-07-28T09:37:36.514-05:00Don't Sound (or Write) Stupid, Part 3<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">A new feature wherein I, Lydia, instruct you, the reader, not to make common, idiotic mistakes of grammar, syntax, or pronunciation of the English language, particularly errors that annoy me. As a review, the word "recognize" is pronounced rek-kog-nize, not reckin-nize.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Special request: I have been asked to explain the difference between its and it's. This is a difficult one and the bane of even educated writers. Somehow the mists of time or convoluted explanations have blurred our understanding, leaving everyone guessing (and often guessing wrong.) </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Actually, this is very easy. </span><br />
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runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-66818081649305844982016-07-19T09:07:00.001-05:002016-07-29T00:14:00.723-05:00Don't Sound Stupid (or write stupid)! part 2<div><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">A new feature wherein I, Lydia, instruct you, the reader, not to make common, idiotic mistakes of grammar, syntax, or pronunciation of the English language, particularly errors that annoy me. As a review, the word "recognize" is pronounced rek-kog-nize, not reckin-nize.</span></div><h1 style="margin: 0px 0px 6px; padding: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="font-size: 17px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><br></span></h1><h1 style="margin: 0px 0px 6px; padding: 0px; line-height: normal;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; font-size: 17px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">Capitalization: </strong><span style="font-size: 17px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue Light', HelveticaNeue-Light, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-weight: normal;">One would think this is easy, but apparently not, since I get tons of correspondence littered with capital letters all over. Why? Does it look fun? Aside from being distracting and oh-so-wrong, I like to try to figure out if there is any method. For example, if the writer is a native German speaker, I understand, since in German all nouns are capitalized. Perhaps the writer thinks it looks whimsical. Alas, I will never know because any email that blatantly WRONG goes directly in the trash, unread. If you aren't sure, best to keep your finger off the shift key altogether. The computer will do the work for you.</span></h1><div><br></div><p style="margin: 0px 0px 12px; padding: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Capitalization</strong> is the writing of a word with its first letter in uppercase and the remaining letters in lowercase. Experienced writers are stingy with capitals. It is best not to use them if there is any doubt.</span></p><div class="rule" style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 10px; border: 1px solid rgb(230, 235, 242); overflow: hidden;"><p style="margin: 0px 0px 12px; padding: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="blue" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Rule 1.</span></em></strong> Capitalize the first word of a document and the first word after a period.</span></p></div><div class="rule" style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 10px; border: 1px solid rgb(230, 235, 242); overflow: hidden;"><p style="margin: 0px 0px 12px; padding: 0px; line-height: normal;"><span style="-webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="blue" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Rule 2.</span></em></strong> Capitalize proper nouns.</span></p><div><br></div></div>runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-70363454138411725842016-07-08T11:26:00.001-05:002016-07-08T11:26:26.356-05:00Don't Sound Stupid, part I<div>A new feature wherein I, Lydia, instruct you, the reader, not to make common, idiotic mistakes of grammar, syntax, or pronunciation of the English language, particularly errors that annoy me. As a review, the word "recognize" is pronounced rek-kog-nize, not reckin-nize.</div><div><br></div><div><br></div>This week, <b>Primer</b>:<div><br></div><div>A basic instruction text, pronounced "Prim-mer," with a short i.</div><div><br></div><div>The initial coat of paint, or pre-treatment, pronounced "Pri-mer," with a long i.</div>runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-54296085719352539872016-07-07T21:26:00.003-05:002016-07-07T21:26:34.226-05:00The World According to Jeff . . .<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Found: the beginning or end of a high school essay . . .</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"All in all, being a twin is very fun."</span>runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-68125451660886784322016-07-02T14:53:00.000-05:002016-07-03T14:32:39.878-05:00Spoiled?"They are acting like spoiled, entitled brats," my former husband emailed. Yes, by normal standards, our children certainly are. Hart almost sabotaged his new job when he pretended he couldn't hear his supervisor talking during a fire drill. Jeff has recently lost a number of jobs because he simply can't or won't follow a schedule.<br />
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I survived yet another of Jeff's pillaging raids on my house. The scam is like this: Jeff and I make plans, such as a dinner date. A few hours before I am to pick him up, Jeff calls to say that he prefers to come to my house, which he does. Then he disappears in the house, opening every cupboard and drawer and filling up bags, like Santa Claus in reverse. After I tell him that I am ready to go or that it is impolite to ransack a house that isn't yours, he gets mad and leaves abruptly with his booty.<br />
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It is unpleasant behavior, to be sure. The essence of autism is that an autistic person doesn't have "theory of mind," which is why I have said, "I can see that you don't want to spend time with me. You want to take stuff from my house. That is rude and hurts my feelings." To no avail.<br />
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This is the delicate dance. How much accommodation can we make for disabled people? It isn't a catch-all excuse for bad behavior. After two decades, I am still confounded by the task of extracting appropriate pro-social behavior. Now there are bosses, supervisors and housemates in the mix. Hart and Jeff are adults now. My influence is limited. In truth, it always was.runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-20559918581189471062016-05-03T14:45:00.000-05:002016-05-03T14:45:49.287-05:00Treasure<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">
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<br />runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-91901269488225522332016-02-14T23:47:00.001-06:002016-02-14T23:47:53.134-06:00Status report<div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-SauTq4xMXtE/VsFmh85CSmI/AAAAAAAAHr4/GHrwFGRpHmA/s640/blogger-image-1731307031.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-SauTq4xMXtE/VsFmh85CSmI/AAAAAAAAHr4/GHrwFGRpHmA/s640/blogger-image-1731307031.jpg"></a></div></div><div><br></div><div>L: How was your weekend at dad's?</div><div><br></div><div>Jeff: Like a volcano of rhinos!</div>runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-88346504809432854332016-01-14T08:52:00.001-06:002016-07-29T00:16:07.449-05:00Favorite London quotes, Dec 27, 2015 to Jan 2, 2016<div><br></div><div>Train conductor: You Americans are so friendly. Why are you always shooting each other?</div><div><br></div><div>Child looking a painting of nymphs in Kensington Palace: Mummy, is that the queen naked?</div><div><br></div><div>Passerby: My car broke down and I need seven pounds for petrol. Can you help?*</div><div><br></div><div>*I thought that scam was native to our fair land. Apparently, it is universal.</div>runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-79780991759408672652016-01-14T08:49:00.001-06:002016-01-14T08:49:54.668-06:00Trivia team<br><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-QoIyiylOcac/Vpe1j2WfwLI/AAAAAAAAHro/tk8kBoeHQLE/s640/blogger-image-478472244.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-QoIyiylOcac/Vpe1j2WfwLI/AAAAAAAAHro/tk8kBoeHQLE/s640/blogger-image-478472244.jpg"></a></div>runciblespnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09449506880776352857noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674764.post-57875254281753834512016-01-13T23:12:00.001-06:002016-01-14T10:10:52.212-06:00Online, lovelorn?<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"In the mid-1980s, a now infamous Newsweek article declared that a single, college-educated 40-year-old woman was more likely to die in a terrorist attack than ever walk down the aisle. The claim, repeated in movies and sitcoms, convinced generations of women that if they weren’t married by 40, it probably wasn’t going to happen."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Yes, I remember the article from 1985. It has since been debunked but <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/08/fashion/mens-style/new-york-bachelors-yearn-for-more.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur">there is a new study </a>that claims that single men over 45 are unlikely to marry . . . ever.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There has been immediate reaction, of course, from smug women and lovelorn men. One woman commented that if a man isn't unemployed or morbidly obese, he should consult a therapist immediately to find out what is wrong. That seems harsh but it holds a grain of truth.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">A whole industry of experts is willing to advise on online profiles and photos, and there is lots of free dating advice online. As a veteran online dater, allow me to save you men money and time* with two simple, fail-safe bits of advice regarding online dating.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #cc0000;">YOU MUST BE WILLING TO LEAVE YOUR HOUSE</span></span>. To people who are married or in a relationship, this must sound ridiculous but it isn't. I can only say that if you, a single man, contact a potential match, no matter how attractive, how charming, kind or smart you are, at some point you both have to be in the same room. </span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I have gotten better at sniffing out married men who are having a bit of fun late at night trawling around dating websites, but you, single eligible guy, what is your excuse? Pen-palling, catfishing and online flirting are not routes to a real relationship. Newsflash: neither are long daily phone conversations or endless texting.<br /> </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #cc0000;">SAY SOMETHING</span>. Hello! is not an opening line. It is a non-starter. Not wishing to be rude, I can always say hello back, but that isn't a conversation. So generally I will tolerate a few days of daily hellos, with an occasional "good morning" before I get bored and stop answering. True, Tinder doesn't offer a profile to comment on, but you can offer a whole sentence about yourself and see if that illicits a response. Go ahead, try it.</span></blockquote>
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